In today’s world, we’re finally starting to retirethe old ways of white male patriarchy, and we’re emerginginto a new era of human equality.
Our society stillhas a long way to go until there’s total gender parity, but incredible strides are being made in regard to female empowerment.
However, as women, we must remember the personal is the political. What goes on in our everyday lives is a reflection of thesociety we live in.
Keeping this in mind, its important we hold ourselves and our personal relationships to a higher standard.
One way we can do this is by maintaining gender equality in our romantic partnerships.
Here are a few ways to have balanced power and respect in your own relationship:
If your man is getting off, then so should you.
Sex is meant to be enjoyedby bothparties. If one partner ishaving an orgasm two times a day, and the other is onthe every-other-week schedule, things need to change.
Communicate with each other, and take the time to find out what your significant other wants out of sex.
If you’re in a committed relationship, you probably go out with your partner a lot.
Going to breakfast, the movies and then drinks at night can get very expensive, very fast.
If your boyfriend is paying for everything you do all the time, it’s going be hard to keep things equal between the two of you.
Think about it, ladies.He’s not your father, andyou’re not his child,so why act that way with your finances?
Of course, taking turns isthe best and most romantic way to go about keeping things financially equal.
He takes you out to dinner, and you take him out to breakfast.
It’s cute, and you feel good about treating your partner back.
Admit when you’re wrong, and call your partner out when he’s in the wrong.
An equal relationship comes when both people arent afraid to speak their minds with each other.
You can’t be afraid to address your problems because you dont want to start a fight.”
Without equal communication, any relationship romantic or not is doomed to fail.
Whether it’s You cant wear that skirt, or You can’t hang out with that girl, no partner should have rules and regulations for his or hersignificant other.
Like I said before, this isn’t a parent-child relationship in which one party has power and authority over the other.
This is anadultrelationship, and both parties are held inequal respect.
No one in a relationship should be scolding you, commanding you or setting rules for you.
Ive seen controlling partners, both male and female, and neither is okay.
I’ve seen guys tell their girlfriends they can’t wear too much makeup or revealing clothing, and I’ve seen women tell their boyfriends they can’t text or talk to any other woman without their approval.
A loving relationship is one in which you honestly and openly discuss the things that bother you.
A loving partner will do what he or she can to understand and make the appropriate changes.
So, keep this in mind as you go about your modern, 21st-century relationships.
I can promise you will feel more respected, valued and appreciated when you’re both on the same playing field.