If our most-used phrases suddenly started appearing all over our bodies, the phrase sexuality is so friggin weird would 100 percent show up on my forehead.
Assexuality can be a confusing web of feelings and definitions to figure out, its easy to get lost in the myths that have grown to surround certain identities especially bisexuality.
Unfortunately, the actual MythBusters were too busy to take on the bisexuality beast, so you have the next best thing: me, a living, breathing bisexual.
Here are 10 myths surrounding bisexuality that need to be busted for good.
This is the most heinous myth of all, mostly because my fellow bisexuals and I are trying exceptionally hard to exist out here.
Contrary to the belief of an inordinate amount of actual people in the world, bisexuality is definitely a real, valid thing.
Someones sexuality is not a made-up thing. Its not a phase. Its not a label people just slap on because some C-list celebrity no ones actually heard of said it was a cool thing to be.
Bisexuality a type of sexual attraction one that about 7 percent of people surveyed identified as in a 2016 study conducted by the Centers for Disease Control (CDC).
Yes, there are a few very valid reasons someone who identifies as gay or lesbian may have first come out as bisexual.
First, sexuality is a complex discovery process. And because every person comes to figure out their sexuality differently (and because of our predominantly heteronormative culture), gay or lesbian individuals may have discovered their attraction to the same gender while still under the influence of compulsory heterosexuality.
Second, in the case where someone isnt sure how a sexuality may be perceived by those around them, some people may feel comfortable coming out as also being interested in men/women before feeling comfortable coming out as gay or lesbian.
AND THIS IS TOTALLY FINE. However, this is not the case for every bisexual person. If someone comes out to you as bisexual, you have no reason to believe that they are or will ever be a different sexuality, until they tell you otherwise.
Bisexuals arent half anything when it comes to sexualities.
Bisexuals are 100 percent bisexual, and 100 percent over this bullsh*t line of thinking. And 100 percent of the time, we experience attraction to both men and women, MEANING, 100 percent of the time, we are indeed bisexual.
If we all said no one was straight until they made out behind a tree with someone of the opposite gender, then maybe we could actually nix the whole assumed straight until proven otherwise debacle.
But alas, straight is still the general assumed sexuality, and here we are.
You CAN feel attraction to a certain gender without ever having dated them before, believe it or not. If this werent the case, kids in high school wouldnt be f*cking like rabbits the second they look at each other.
On the other end of the has no clue what theyre talking about spectrum, we have the people who assume that just because a girl kissed another girl one time in 2006, that means that girl is automatically bisexual.
And to assume sowould be foolish.
Sexuality, attraction, and even curiosity are all fluid. This means theres absolutely nothing wrong with experimentation, especially because sexuality can be a confusing web to figure out. However, a person actively trying to sort out their feelings toward others doesnt automatically assign that person a sexuality.
This myth definitely stems from the half gay, half straight myth. And in case we are in need a refresher: Someones relationship status is not always an indicator of their sexuality.
That being said, a bisexual person is still bisexual if theyre in a relationship with the opposite gender because get this, youre gonna love it BISEXUALS ARE ATTRACTED TO TWO GENDERS.
And like Ive said a thousand times up until this point, this means bisexuals!!! are!!! still!!! bisexual!!! no matter!!! whom!!! they date!!!
Someone whos bisexual is no more likely to cheat on their partner than any person you see walking down the street.
A persons attraction to two genders has no affect on their ability to conduct themselves in a relationship.Just like any person loves and cares for one person in a monogamous relationship, so does a bisexual person in a monogamous relationship, regardless of their current partners gender.
Cheating has nothing to do with a persons sexuality. Rather, cheating has to do with someones character. So perhaps we should all spend less time worrying about someones sexuality and more time wondering whether or not someones a shitty person.
Theres no flowery way to explain this myth away. But let it be known, bisexuals are not necessarily interested in threesomes.
Someones particular interest in a threesome is, of course, up to them and only them. However, wanting to get freaky with two people at the same time is not a damn prerequisite for being bisexual.
For example, just because youre attracted to more than one guy in the world, doesnt necessarily mean you want to f*ck them at the same time (but maybe you do, IDK, MAN).
Similarly, just because youre attracted to two genders, doesnt mean you want to do everything with both genders at the same time.
Bisexuality merely involves sexual attraction to two genders. It does NOT dictate which gender you typically date or which gender you prioritize.
Luckily for me, this means if I want to prioritize dating girls, I dont suddenly get kicked out of the bisexuality club. (Thank God, that club is my LIFE, you guys.)
And why is this? Because I STILL feel attraction toward guys, EVEN THOUGH IM NOT ACTIVELY DATING THEM.
Its amazing how we can make personal choices about ourdating lives while still identifying as the same thing, isnt it?
Because sexuality is a pretty vast spectrum, and because people are constantly learning ways in which they can comfortably identify themselves, its normal to get a little confused.
But its time to set this particular record straight: Bisexuality and pansexuality are two things.
While bisexuality involves attraction to two different genders, pansexuality involves attraction to people of their gender. A pansexual person doesnt feel sexually attracted to someone because theyre a man, a woman, non-binary, transgender, etc. Instead, theyre sexually attracted to other aspects of a person, like their personality.
So if theres anything to be remembered about bisexuality, its that this identity is real. Its valid. And its definition is pretty self-explanatory.
And if we could all stay in our lanes, and accept that these common myths need to be eradicated, the world and bisexuals would be much, much happier.