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10 Traditional Rules I Broke That Left Me With The Perfect Wedding

When planning my wedding, my fianc and I altered some age-old traditions, gave a few the boot and put our own spin on things to make our day exactly what we wanted.

Hereare 10rules we broke to make the day completely our own:

It took us six months to set a date.

We got engaged around Christmas while we were stillin college, meaninga new semester of difficult courses was starting up. We didnt have the time to devote to planning the wedding we wanted, so we took some time to simply enjoy our new title of fiancs.

Any newly-engaged couple knows the famous question people ask right away: Do you have a date set?

Its wonderful people want to share your happiness, but you dont have to pick a date within days of saying yes if you arent ready.

Our wedding party was uneven.

The idea there has to be the same number of bridesmaids and groomsmen was absurd to me, and honestly, the only benefit is its aesthetically pleasing in pictures.

We found a way to creatively pair up five bridesmaids and three groomsmen for the ceremony, andwe got some pretty great photos with the uneven group, too.

I didnt wear a traditional dress.

Stark white wasnt a pleasing color to me, and I didnt like the look of a long train andan unattractive bustle.

I opted for a tea-length gown and bought it one size up, so it hit the floor perfectly. It was in a soft champagne color, and I felt like a real-life princess.

Do what fits your style, whether its a bright-white, princess ball gown or an atypical dress in an outrageous color.

Dessert came first.

As soon as we made our way in from the grand march at our reception, we went straight to cake-cutting to get it done first.

This small change made so many things easier: Our photographer was still there to get the photos, people didnt have to feel awkward about taking a cupcake right away after dinner and no one had to wait around or hurry in from outside to see us cut it later on.

Italso allowed me to eat a piece of cake immediately, which is every brides dream.

We put a twist on the clinking glasses to kiss game.

My husband and I werent fans of having to stop andkiss as people obnoxiously tapped their silverware on their glasses during dinner.

Instead, we opted to do something different with the help of our wonderful MC/DJ. She had a list of certain couples in the room, with write-ups I did on each one.

Whenever people clinked their glasses, she called out another couple in the room to kiss before my husband and I would. People absolutely loved this game and kept requesting to be on the list.

There wasnt a garter-removal ceremony

Although this can be amusing for people to witness, our personal taste veered away from my husband putting his head up my dress to pull off a garter with his teeth.

It didnt emulate the class and sophistication our reception had, so we steered clear, and nobody even noticed.

but there were twobouquet tosses.

With the removal of the garter ceremony, I completely forgot to bring a garter from home to toss.

In a whirlwind improvising act, one of the bridesmaids offered up her bouquet for me to toss, and I gave my (actual) toss bouquet to my husband to throw for all the single guys.

This isactual proof you can change things on a whim, and nobody cares. In fact, everyone hada great laugh over it.

We didnt party until the sun came up.

Our DJ actually ended at 11 pm, with the advice that a good party should end when it should, not when it shouldnt.

Although we probably could have danced all night, ending a little earlier was a blessing in disguise. It removed that last-hour awkwardness where lots of people file out, and youre left with only a lonely handful of party-goers.

When the party was over, we still had a full room. This also gave my husband and I a chance to go back to our room and have some time alone to reflect on our amazing day.

We did more than make continuous circles around the room and mingle.

If I had a dollar for every time someone said, You wont get to eat or dance on your wedding day, I probably could have paid for my dress.

But this wasnt true. My husband and I enjoyed a great dinner at our head table, had time for a glass of champagne and still found time to walk around the room and say personal hellos to all our guests during cocktails and dinner.

When the lights got low, I spent most of the night dancing with my new hubs and my best friends. Your wedding is supposed to be yourday eat your dinner, eat your cake and dance all night if you want to.

There wasnt a huge honeymoon planned.

Like most millennial couples, were on a budget and establishing our careers. When we get our feet on the ground, we can live the dream and visit Germany and Hawaii.

For now, though, we settled for a minimoon and got out of town for a couple days to the city where my husband had work testing.

We hadtime for shopping, amazing meals together, good conversations, a nice hotel and some much needed relaxation. You dont have to go halfway around the world to spend quality time together.

When planning your wedding, break whatever rules you want. You arent required to adhere to any existing traditions. Create a reflection of who you really are as a couple.

In the end, its not even about the party; its about the marriage. But youll be happy to look back and say you had exactly the wedding youve always wanted.

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